You might be thinking that there’s not much technique to handjobs. Just grab his penis and move your hand up and down, right? Well, sure, you can do that. But if you want to take your handjobs from beginner level to pro, read on.
5 Tips for Great Handjobs
1. Communicate
Before anyone takes their pants off, let’s just remind ourselves of one of the most important ingredients for sex: communication. Whether it’s oral sex, anal sex, breast stimulation or any other activity where the aim is connection and pleasure, communication is key.
Every body is different and what feels amazing for one person may not for another. Take the testicles. Testicles are super sensitive which makes them a pleasure hotspot for some men, but a no-go area for others. Asking your partner about what areas they like and dislike being touched can spare you from making them feel uncomfortable and help you to focus on areas which give them more pleasure.
And don’t forget that a bit of dirty talk can go a long way to boosting arousal and desire too!
2. Go slowly
Just like when stimulating other parts of the body like the breasts, nipples, vulva or clitoris, it’s a good idea to go slowly. So don’t just grab the penis and go straight in for the kill right away. Increasing the intensity gradually can be incredibly exciting and build arousal in a tantalizing way. So even though touching the penis is the main focus of a hand job, make sure to touch, caress, and kiss other parts of the body first.
Once you’ve built up arousal, you can move onto the area around the genitals. Caress the thighs, run your fingers gently along the groin for a few minutes, and add some sexy eye contact and dirty talk into the mix if you’re feeling up for it. By building the excitement gradually like this, your partner will be putty in your hands by the time you get to his penis.
3. Get comfortable
To avoid getting tired when giving handjobs for a long time, you need to find a position you can hold comfortably for an extended period.
One technique that usually works well is for your partner to lie on their back on the bed while you sit on top of them, with your legs astride their thighs, or however feels comfortable for the two of you. Not only does this allow you to make eye contact (which is super sexy by the way), it’ll also give you a feeling of dominance. Plus it can be a real turn on to feel you have control over your partner’s pleasure!
4. Use lube!
There’s a misconception that lubricant is only for anal sex or sex after menopause, but this couldn’t be further from the truth. Lube is a fantastic tool for men and women of all ages because it reduces friction, making sex more comfortable and more pleasurable.
Sure there’s also saliva or pre-seminal fluid, also called pre-cum to lubricate the penis, but it’s not always enough. And to allow your hands to slide smoothly, the skin of the penis needs to be lubricated. That’s why we strongly recommend using a commercial lube.
Plus, you can have a lot of fun with all the different types. Try warming or cooling lubes to have fun with temperature play, flavored for great-tasting oral sex or just good old regular lube for some silky smooth sensations. If you'd like to purchase high-quality lubricants, click here.
5. Use both hands
While one hand only can already give a lot of pleasure, using two can double it!
Here’s a two-handed technique you can try to drive your partner wild: Start by stimulating the penis as you normally do. When it’s slightly or totally erect, intertwine your fingers and wrap them around the shaft of the penis. Your thumbs will be free to rest on the penis in a thumbs-up position. With your fingers clasped together, move them up and down the penis. You’ll see that you’re able to vary the pressure by moving your hands closer or farther apart.
But the real pleasure doesn't just come from this enveloping pressure. The thumbs are key: as you move your hands up and down the length of the shaft, slide your thumbs up and down from the tip of the glans down to the crown of the glans and the frenulum. As you do so, apply gentle pressure, making sure not to scratch them with your nails.
You can do this for a while, varying the speed and pressure, but don't forget to ask how your partner’s feeling and if they want to change anything, as even if something is pleasurable at first, it could become too sensitive after a while. For more techniques, check out this YouTube tutorial.
Main Takeaways
If there’s one thing you take away from this article, remember that there’s no perfect way to give handjobs. There are so many different techniques, positions and even games you can play with to give your partner pleasure. Each person is different, so remember to observe and ask your partner if they enjoy a particular area being touched, and back off if they aren’t enjoying it. Pleasure’s the name of the game after all. If you would like a professional to do it. We recommend you take a look at this escort service here.
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Happy experimenting!
